Time moves strangely in this industry. A year can feel like a lifetime, and a decade feels like a dream you’re not sure you’ve fully woken from. Over the past 10+ years, I’ve seen platforms rise and collapse, trends ignite and fade, and entire communities form out of nothing but pixels and late-night conversations.
Here are ten truths I carry with me — offered to creators/performers, to fans who’ve been by my side, and to anyone wandering the blurred space between.
🩸 1. Connection Outlasts Content
Clips/Shows fade. Trends expire. Money are going. But people remember how you made them feel. That emotional connection is the foundation of everything. How they made you feel with your first big tip. How you made them feel singing Happy Birthday. Memories that will last a lifetime for both. Build them, don’t be just a passenger. You want to be more than just a client/performer? Take that time and build up, prove them you truly care.
🌙 2. Consistency Matters More Than Perfection
It’s better to show up imperfectly than to disappear while chasing “perfect.” The ritual of showing up builds trust and loyalty. And to be honest this is a chapter I am still working personally on it too. After all these years I still fail to show up, to be there. Truth be told I hate secretly myself for it, because I truly want to be there daily. Just sometimes…is not in my guts.
🕯️ 3. Reinvention is Survival
The platforms will change. The rules will change. You will change. Reinvention isn’t weakness — it’s evolution. Found a niche that isn’t working anymore? Don’t be afraid of the change, try again and start over, make what feels right and works. I have changed my persona/brand so many times I truly got a bit tired, but I keep pushing and I keep trying. Something has to catch at a point!
👑 4. Boundaries Protect the Dream
Not every request deserves a yes. Not every person deserves access. Setting boundaries isn’t shutting people out — it’s keeping your light alive. To be painfully honest, this is another advice I am still trying my best to hold into. And not because I am not having boundaries, but because they find so many new ways to break them is becoming exhausting. However I do stand my ground as best as I can.
🩸 5. Storytelling is Power
It’s not just about what you do — it’s about the story you wrap around it. People connect to narrative. Let them enter your world. After all you are human and not an AI there to just entertain 24/7. If they want one they can go find one. Also we do care about fans stories, it’s helping us connect and treat you like a human, not just a tipper, so try at least give us a hint on what you love in general.
🌙 6. Energy is Contagious
The way you show up reflects in your audience. If you’re burned out, they feel it. If you’re inspired, they rise with you. Protect your energy like a sacred flame. As a fan you can give energy by supporting and engaging in room, not just DM. If you see a dead room is not always the performers fault, it’s your silence too. Lurking is really bad for having fun.
🕯️ 7. Community is the Treasure
One generous, loyal supporter is worth more than a thousand passive viewers. Build for the ones who truly care. But again an empty room is not a community, so little pieces of a puzzle can add up and finish into an explosive fun room if you just give your best shot too. No one is expecting whales all the time, little by little we are wishing it too.
👑 8. Adapt Your Tools, But Keep Your Voice
Apps, sites, overlays, trends — they’re just tools. Your voice, your essence, is the constant thread. Never trade it away. You are the main character and is YOUR room. Do what’s fun for you as well or you will end up burning out faster than ever.
🩸 9. Silence is Not Failure
Sometimes you need to step back, recharge, or even disappear for a while. That doesn’t erase your worth. Ghosts still belong to the story. recharge, go touch some grass, enjoy life if you can or just take 5 and turn back. I am aware too well of the stress of holding out and not making for hours anything. Come back, shift the tune, put on another song and try again.
🌙 10. Longevity Comes From Love
The only reason I’m still here after ten years is because I love it. Love creating. Love connecting. Love the chaos and the ritual of it all. Love keeps the dream alive. I also hate it sometimes, there is a thin line between love and hate. But I have learned that in order to do what I love, I do need to do it when I hate it too ( without breaking my boundaries).
Ten years taught me that this path is not easy, but it is worth it. For creators — I hope these lessons guide you. For fans — I hope they help you see the heart/struggle behind what I do.
Whether you’ve been here since the beginning or just arrived, you’re part of this dream now.
Seduce the mind. Feed the soul. Shape the dream.
Drop me a comment down bellow and tell me what other rules/advices you have and if you would like to support me, there is a small link in my Home page here with ways to tip me.
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